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Friday, June 01, 2007

enlightenment of the day. @ 6/01/2007 11:01:00 PM

hello everybody!!!
i know my classmates will scold me for not studying.
because here i am wasting my time to blog.

oh well, if people that know me well enough.
will know that, i'm someone that will share what's really interest me.
if not i'll feel super uneasy=)
thus i'm here to share with you guys about how i feel and what i've learnt that i think it's applicable for our daily activities and etc.

where should i start??
alright, here i go!

1. Recognising emotions in others.
- as a human, we feel and we have feelings, but often than not we forget that others do feel and have feelings too.
- what i want to bring across here is that --> as a friend, buddy, family etc. (the listener, adviser). we need to know and be aware how the other party feel and why he/she felt that way.
- in order to help that "victim", we have to put ourselves into other's shoe and see things from other's perspective. in other words, being empathetic.

** if negative emotions (anger) occurs.
- important to calm down first before deciding what to do.
- be objective about own and the other party's feeling.
- sit down, talk things through, knowing when to back off and discuss the matter another time -- if the situation turn hostile.
- always ask if you are not unsure! make effort to understand.
- encourage open discussion=) keeping in mind not to take offence.
- because often, we asked for honest opinion but we're not prepared for the consequences.

2. Managing your thoughts.
- all of us need "TIME LOCK"! --> block out distractions.
- one good example will be: during exam period, study is your focus. and what we have to do is to lock our time to study and not playing computer games etc. but remember to reward yourself a tiny "time out" when neccessary=)
- but the situation now is that --> for example, when one is troubled, he/she will bring the troubled looking face with him/her. so the time lock here is: he/she have to really concentrate and enjoy the accompany of friends and the activities. locking the thoughts of being troubled.
**remember this --> nothing can make you feel inferior without your consent!!!

3. Emotions and motivations are related!!!
- when your are down, what cheers you up?
- being a human being, we need human being's support.
- i always believe that supportive surrounding (friends, family etc.) plays an important part=)
- for example, when we are in a crisis. we can lose our perspective about how to get out, this is when supportive friends step in.
- and this leads me to point 4=)

4. Motivational realtionship.
- mutually motivation ought to be practice. sound's "chim"! --> it's actually how you go about
sharing your thought and how to go about reciprocate (counter attack) it.
- know eactly what you are feeling and just share it with someone you are comfortable with.
- take note: if you are unhappy with A, you have to also share your unhappy feeling to A. this is to address the issue and sort things out=) --> then there'll be rainbow after rain=D
- how to reciprocate? --> mutually supporting one another, so no one feels used, taken advantaged of.
- always provide alternative solutions. allow the "victim" to weigh it himself/herself.
- lastly, relationship is all about compromising, loving each other, forgiving & forgetting and giving & taking=)

people can "catch the ball?" because i sort of like lost my point=)
but it's something that really speaks to me and caused me to ponder about it=D

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